Praying For Non-Believing Relatives’ Conversion?


st-augustine-cycle-death-of-st-monicaToday marks the feast of St. Monica, St. Augustine’s mother. What we know of her is that she was brought up Christian by her parents and married to a pagan man named Patricius. Her son Augustine was also brought up with the Christian faith, but as we all know he left the Church as a young man and was involved in Manicheism. From St. Augustine’s Confessions we know that St. Monica always prayed vigorous for her son’s soul. She was convinced that God would answer her prayers for conversion. And it happened: during his time in Milan, after a profound crisis St. Augustine converted to Christianity and became one of its most powerful defenders of that day.

As many of you may know, my family does not believe in anything. They’re self-confessed Atheist or they simply don’t care and don’t want to be bothered with any form of religious talk. They don’t want me to pray for them, which brings up a dilemma: should I pray for my family like St. Monica did for their conversion or not? They don’t want me to pray for them and I guess I should also respect their wishes.

Part of the reason they don’t want me to pray for them is fear, I guess. Suppose God exists and they are put for a choice which possibly means they need to change their lives. They are happy with the lives they currently live and don’t want to change it or have it changed by a third party. I know that their lives will be more happy if they would know God. So I pray for them anyway, knowing God will respect their wishes, but still I feel uncomfortable doing something they don’t want me to do.

How do you deal with non-believing family and friends? Do you pray for them? Do they know you’re praying for them? How do they react?

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A House Blessing


A small meditation and prayer Last Sunday was the day my house would be blessed. I know most people who read this blog aren’t Catholic, so maybe this is also a good occasion to explain why I have my house blessed. Back in the time when I wasn’t Catholic myself either, I considered people to bless their houses to be superstitious. I thought they did it because they wanted to prevent this way that their house would burn down or flood or avoid burglary and such.

After studying the Catholic faith a bit, I discovered most of my ideas surrounding house blessings were prejudices based on what I thought to be the Catholic faith practice. To a Protestant having objects blessed makes no sense, it looks like magical thinking from the Catholic side. Some people would be extremely careful with blessed objects, almost to the point of handling magical objects. But when you think a bit deeper, things start to make sense. Take the Holy Scriptures for instance: the image of the house is being used many times:

In the Old Testament, Moses builds a tent for God in the desert while the people of Israël wander for forty years. In that tent they keep the Ark of the Covenant and it’s a place of worship. After settling in the Promised Land, David promises to build a house for the Lord and his son Solomon will finish it. In the New Testament Our Lord uses the image of the house to say things about us and our lives. Our bodies are a Temple (House) for the Holy Spirit. The Holy Spirit wants to dwell in us. God get closer to a person than that. Talking about dwelling places is a major theme in the Scriptures, but at the same time everybody realises that God doesn’t need a tent, a house or even a temple. But God likes to be close to us and we like to have places to go to to worship him.

We still build houses for the Lord. We call them churches nowaday. It’s a place where we gather for the breaking of the bread, just like the first Christians did in the Scriptures. They came together in houses to have fellowship and worship. However, we aren’t people who only show our faith inside churches or temples. We are also called to live our faith outside. During Mass, or better: just before Mass ends this is made very clear when the deacon says or sings “Ite Missa Est”, “This is Mass”. It’s one of the very last things that’s being said during Mass, but it’s said in the present tense. So what follows next, THAT is Mass. At least, that’s how a priest explained it to me. This means that everything that’s important we do after we leave from Mass. Mass service prepares us for it.

What has this to do with a house blessing? I think you can think along the same lines about your own house. A house is a roof above your head, it allows us to eat in peace, to refresh ourselves, to rest, to invite people and all the other things that gives us energy to do what we are called to do. Working in the vineyard of the Lord becomes very complicated, if not impossible if you’re not rested, if you’re hungry, if you’re not at peace. We need our house as much as we need Mass to live our faith. And because I start all of my days in my house, I want to have it blessed, to make a statement everything starts with the Lord.

This goes much deeper than a superstitious protection against bad luck, the devil, fire and what not. Maybe God protects me from that, but I believe he would do that anyway, whether my house is blessed or not. If I want to protect myself against a fire, it would probably a better idea to install a smoke detector and other security measures than having a priest sprinkle everything with a few drops of holy water.

This ‘deep’ reason wasn’t for me the only reason to have my house blessed. Catholics love throwing a party. We just need reasons to do so. It’s a day of a housewarming party, having fun with friends too. That’s why I asked a priest friend to do the blessing instead of my own parish priest. Just to have a good excuse to have him come over here to have a lot of fun. And boy, did we had a blast that day. Maybe I need to invite him again for Epifany so I can have a blessing again. :nungrin:

A friend who was joining in the festivities took some pictures of the ‘event’. I’m walking around with a small bowl filled with holy water and Fr. Roderick has an aspergillum (a small metal container with a sponge in the head) to sprinkle holy water. He says a prayer when we arrive at a certain place that’s dedicated to that place and blesses it with the holy water.

So now all my friends who aren’t Catholic know why we bless our houses. :nunsmile:

A small meditation and prayer

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Beyond Heartbreaking


haitiquake Yesterday, before I went to sleep my eye fell on a post in my twitter feed. It said “According to USGS a 7.0 earthquake hit Haiti“. I never witnessed a real earthquake, so I don’t know what being in an earthquake is. The biggest ones we get are around 3.5 and they are quite rare. They are a result of gas mining and nothing like the big ones people in the Americas have to endure.

I retweeted the tweet and asked my friends on Facebook for prayers. I said a prayer myself and went to bed. I don’t have a TV so I haven’t seen any footage of the Haiti quake. But I get really sad when I hear that the death toll is rising above 100,000 victims.  I can’t help looking up and ask the age-old question: Why?

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Easter Vigil: Celebrating with Bishop De Korte


Easter Vigil 2009 was great! For me, this is one of the most awesome Masses of the whole liturgical year! During Mass I tried to make some pictures with my cell phone, but with the flash switched off. I didn’t want to ruin other people’s devotion. I hope you get an impression how Mass was like, but it’s better to actually be there. But the next opportunity is in 2010, so until then, you’ll have to do with the pictures!

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Stabat Mater (Solesmes version)


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In our cathedral we sing the ‘Solesmes’ version of the Stabat Mater, in my opinion it’s simple but very beautiful. You hear one of our choir members, Sjoukje singing in the front of the cathedral and Mark singing along seated next to me.

When you click on ‘Read more’, you’ll find the lyrics of the chant.

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Good Friday: All-Night Vigil


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Good morning! I just came back from the cathedral… :sleepy: Last night I spent the night chanting and praying with a number of other fellow parishioners.

It started last night at 9pm with the “Dark Matins” sung in Gregorian by our new Schola: Schola Nova Gregoriana. They just started and this was their first performance and I must say that they really sound good already. It’s very promising. We’re really spoiled to have two full scholas in our parish and one very good choir. After they finished, the All Night Vigil started 45 minutes later. We prayed a full rosary, we listened to a reading from Isaiah 1:1-20, did the Litany of the Holy and Precious Blood of Our Lord Jesus Christ; we did the Office of Readings for Good Friday, the second reading bySt. John Chrysostom, who was bishop of Constantinople († 407) and right after that we sung the Stabat Mater, the Solesmes version. I think that’s the most beautiful version I’ve ever sung. Everything was wrapped up by our priest at 7:00 am, by praying Lauds. I really REALLY liked doing it, hoping we have some more All Night Vigils in the coming year!

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Communion: in the hand or on the tongue?


eucharist Last summer I was received into the Catholic Church and one of the first things I had to learn was how to receive Holy Communion in a reverent way. Everybody has been taught to receive on the hand, standing. The idea is that your hands will form a ‘throne’ for the Lord. It didn’t take long for me to change that to receiving on the tongue. This happened during my holiday, a week after I was received into the Church. We were staying at a Benedictine abbey where the custom was to receive kneeling on the tongue at the 17th century Baroque communion rails in the abbey’s church. I noticed that receiving that way helped my devotion to the Blessed Sacrament a lot. I thought it was a pity that the beautiful communion rails of our cathedral aren’t in use anymore, but also could understand why. Communion would take forever if two people would have to give it to people kneeling down at the rails. People who advocate it to take up the practice now usually don’t realise that there are much less Eucharistic ministers available compared to pre-Vatican II days. There aren’t simply as many priests, deacons and the like around during Mass. So in my parish we have two regular Eucharistic ministers: the priest and a hermit / monk who almost finished seminary before becoming a monk.

So although I understand why Holy Communion isn’t distributed anymore at the communion rails, I think it’s a pity I hardly have the opportunity to receive that way.

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Home, Sweet Home


home sweet homeThe feast of Epiphany will be celebrated on January 4th instead of the regular January 6th in the Dutch Ecclesial Province. I think the reason for it is that January 6 is not a public holiday. Since the day has the rank of Solemnity, moving it to Sunday gives working people who want to attend Mass the occasion to do so. Epiphany means ‘Revelation’ or ‘Manifestation’.

God announces the birth of his Son, the Incarnate Word who is God, to the world using the Star of Bethlehem. What does this feast mean to me?

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A Convers(at)ion with God, part II


Day 216 - Sacred Heart, San Antonio Graffiti, March 2008Yesterday I wrote the first part of my conversion story, today I want to finish it. After my Confirmation I went to Germany and Austria for my holiday together with my godmother. We started our travels in Kehlheim in Bavaria and we stayed in a Benedictine Abbey in the small village of Weltenburg. Goal of our holiday was walking in the footsteps of the Holy Father, Pope Benedict XVI. We stayed literally at the banks of the river Danube. I really LOVED the Benedictine atmosphere over there. After that we continued our travels to Austria, and again we stayed with a religious order. But this time it was a completely different order, they were the Missionaries of St. Peter Claver which is a relatively modern order and they are sisters, not nuns. I really REALLY missed being with the Benedictines, the contrast was rather strong. But it was here where I had a real strong religious experience.

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A Convers(at)ion with God, part I


Lights...I can’t repeat often enough how happy I am to be a Catholic. It’s a tremendous joy to be able to live with Jesus like I do now. I feel incredibly blessed! I don’t think this is what people call ‘a first love’, because I converted years ago from being an Atheist to being a Reformed Presbyterian Protestant. That conversion was mainly rational: at one point I had to admit God did exist and that he did send his Son to us to sacrifice Himself so we could be saved. I had to be baptised because to me that was the only thing I could do when I wanted to take myself seriously. I want to practice what I believe, and therefore not being baptised was living a lie. I want to be consistent to what I belief, always. It may sound weird, but I hope you will see why this is an important point in my conversion story.

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